None of us are perfect. Yet, some are more and others less aware of that undeniable fact.
Then we have a subcategory of those who are highly aware of their own, let’s call them imperfections. This subcategory can be described as people who live their life with the excuse “I am who I am, I’m a complete and defined person, I don’t have the need to change.”
Let’s face it, no matter how great we objectively are, or how amazing we believe we are, there is always, always room for improvement. So, if you’re ready to take a long hard look in the mirror and truly see yourself and all your colors, we’re here to help guide you on your transformative journey.
Believe it or not, it takes no more than ten little hacks to become not a new, but a greatly improved person in every aspect!
1) Admit It
The first step, as aforementioned, is recognizing you’re not perfect. Once you’re able to admit that to yourself, you will first feel like an enormous weight has been lifted off your shoulders. The next step is pinpointing all the spheres in which you are less than perfect and then making a solemn vow to do better.
You can’t promise yourself absolute and undeniable success, but you can commit to doing your very best to eradicate your flaws and become a better version of yourself.
2) Push It
One of the most important steps towards self-improvement is stepping out of your comfort zone. Yes, you might be doing okay in your professional as well as personal life, but okay is not enough.
You deserve the best and if you maintain the status quo, you’re essentially going backwards. Therefore, dare to try new things – go on that date, change your hairstyle, go for that better job you think you’re not qualified for yet.
Whatever your fear is, whatever freezes you, make yourself push through it. Break the comfort cycle, step into the unknown. That is when the best things in life happen.
3) Work Harder
The general rule of thumb is – the more you know, the more you’re worth. Therefore, the path to self-improvement is simple – try to learn something new every day. Adopt a new skill, take a course, be the best at work, dazzle everyone with your skill set. We know that constant learning can be taxing, especially if you have so much on your plate.
It’s understandable that your levels of concentration plummet, but hey, you always have the option of resorting to the best focus pills, which aren’t only effective but safe, and bound to bring back the spring in your mind’s step.
4) Power and Control
While on the subject of learning, there is one stereotype which is sadly true in many cases. Women tend to rely on the help of others when it comes to certain things in life, things that usually involve menial labor and a certain level of skill. If your washer is making a weird noise, don’t immediately ‘call a guy’.
There are tons of tutorials on how to do essentially everything from assembling shelves to fixing your fridge, so try to go at it alone, without anyone’s help.
You may not be successful the first or maybe even the second time, but you will pull it off on the third. Trust us, the rush of successfully accomplishing something you thought you never could is incredible, not to mention the amount of added value that it brings to your personality.
5) Change Your Hair
This may seem trivial, but Coco Chanel wasn’t wrong when she said that a woman who cuts her hair is about to change her life. There is something truly, and mysteriously powerful in a good cut and perhaps even a color that makes you feel prettier, better, empowered and just generally incredibly self-confident.
In addition to all this, change is simply good, always, even when we’re too close to see it, it always works out for the best, so visit that hairdresser and by improving and refreshing your look, you will have actually improved yourself.
6) Stay Grounded
No matter how successful you are, or beautiful or smart, try your best to fight the urge to brag and get on a high horse. Don’t boast. Be confident, yes, be proud of your accomplishments, whatever they may be, but don’t rub your great life in other people’s faces.
It’s annoying, discouraging and simply unkind. There will be plenty of people who will compliment and praise you, and you don’t have to be one of them.
Let your kindness and “feet firm on the ground” just be another thing people won’t only admire, but actually love about you and subsequently love you more.
7) Let It Go
This one isn’t just for the sake of your improvement but also for the sake of your general well-being, both mental and emotional. Don’t hold grudges and don’t retaliate.
Turn the other cheek, be the bigger person and learn to truly forgive and forget. Don’t be spiteful and vengeful – these are possibly the worst traits people can have.
If someone has done you wrong, forgive them once, and if you notice a pattern and realize you’re dealing with a toxic and mean person, simply distance yourself, but take the high road. Trust us, the high road provides you with much more tranquility and a sense of being a good person than the temporary rush of “having your word be the last”.
8) Don’t Bottle It Up
This one is again related to both self-improvement and well-being. When you feel hurt, angry or frustrated, don’t bottle it up. Suppressing your emotions has the power to create a bitter person out of you in the long run, so when you feel something, let it out.
Tell someone that they’ve hurt your feelings, in a good and constructive way.
Confide in someone when you’re feeling frustrated. Letting it out has the power to almost solve whatever it is that’s putting a chip on your shoulder, so own up to your feelings and don’t tiptoe around anyone. Be kind, but straightforward.
9) Speaking of…
We did say that you shouldn’t be borderline cocky about your knowledge, beauty, skill set, etc. However, there is absolutely nothing wrong with being assertive – you feel like you deserve a better grade at college – ask the professor to tell you what you did wrong. You’re killing it in the workplace but your superiors don’t seem to mention the words ‘promotion’ or ‘raise’.
The world will rarely give you things on a silver platter; more often than not, you have to fight for them. Men do it all the time and they’re not considered aggressive – they’re smart and assertive.
Down with the patriarchy and labeling assertive women as aggressive. Ask for what you deserve, again, in a polite, respectful, but firm and decisive manner.
10) Take Care
Go to the dentist, have a full physical, eat right and exercise. You can’t be the best version of yourself if there is something physically wrong with you and you keep neglecting it. Put your health first, above everything, even all the things mentioned above.
Take up yoga and meditation, get your mind and body to a good place and simply always remember to take care of both your body and mind, because ultimately, they’re the only ones you have.
There is no second life, so treat your body as a temple.